How to Start Planning a Wedding: Your First Steps to a Beautiful Celebration

You’re engaged—what an exciting moment! Whether the proposal was a complete surprise or something you saw coming, this is the start of a really meaningful chapter. Before you jump into timelines and to-do lists, take a deep breath. Soak it all in. Celebrate this milestone.

But if your brain is already buzzing with ideas and you're wondering where to begin, you're not alone. Many couples feel a strong pull to start organizing right away—especially with popular venues booking up and the wedding world still experiencing a boom.

The good news? You don’t have to do it all at once. There’s a thoughtful, step-by-step approach that can help you move forward without feeling overwhelmed. In this post, I’m breaking down how to start planning a wedding with more grace, less stress, and a lot more intention.

Start with the Vision

When couples first get engaged, it’s tempting to dive right into booking vendors or picking a color palette. But one of the most important things you can do first is pause and talk about your vision together.

What kind of wedding do you both want?

Think about the overall feeling, style, and priorities that matter most. Maybe it’s an intimate Hudson Valley weekend with 40 of your closest people. Maybe it’s a chic New York City rooftop with modern vibes and an epic afterparty. Maybe you’re both foodies who want a farm-to-table dinner, or you’re dreaming of a ceremony that reflects your cultural traditions.

There’s no one right way to do this—what matters is that it feels like you. Starting here will help guide every decision that comes next. When you’re wondering how to start planning a wedding, alignment on your shared vision is always step one.

Set a Budget and Draft a Guest List

Once your vision is clear, the next two steps go hand-in-hand: setting your budget and estimating your guest list.

Why? Because everything else—your venue, your vendors, your overall scope—depends on these two pieces.

Start by talking honestly about what you’re comfortable spending, and whether anyone else (like parents or family members) will be contributing. Having clarity on your total budget from the start will help you make informed decisions and avoid surprises down the line.

Next, draft a preliminary guest list. Even if it’s not final, having a rough headcount will shape your search for venues and help you understand what kind of celebration you’re planning.

At Oh So Beautiful Events, we always guide our couples through this process during the first phase of planning. We create a custom budget breakdown and guest list tracker so you’re not guessing—you’re making empowered, intentional choices.

Bring in a Planner (Early!)

If there’s one piece of advice I could give every newly engaged couple, it would be this: hire a planner early in the process.

I know it can feel like something to think about “later,” but the truth is, a planner’s support is most valuable before you start booking vendors or signing contracts. We help you build a clear timeline, recommend trusted professionals, and avoid common (and costly) missteps.

Especially if you’re a busy professional with a demanding career or family life, having a partner in the planning process makes a huge difference. And if you’re planning from afar—say, hosting a Hudson Valley wedding while living in NYC—we can be your eyes, ears, and boots on the ground.

If you’ve been wondering how to start planning a wedding without losing your mind, the answer might be: don’t do it alone.

Final Thoughts: Your First Steps Matter

You don’t need to plan your entire wedding in a weekend. What you do need is a thoughtful place to begin—and a little reassurance that you’re doing it right.

Start with your vision. Get clear on your budget and guest list. And surround yourself with people (like a planner!) who can make this process feel joyful and intentional—not chaotic.

This is the start of something truly special—and I’m so excited for you.

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